The Burman Family

For every 100 orphaned children in other countries, 99 will never find parents to adopt them; 75 of those 100 children will not live to reach their teenage years. The statistics for children with disabilities are even more grim. But sometimes miracles happen, and for Evelyn, Hudson, Owen, Reagan, and Carrington Burman, their miracle was in the form of Shelly and Bryan Burman.
It’s a normal day in the Burman household; Owen sits in his high
chair for a meal, Evelyn and Hudson are chowing down on crackers,
Reagan is zooming around the room in her chair, and Carrington is
sitting in her mother’s lap chattering away. This household is
unique in one special way – these five children were adopted from
the Ukraine, and they all have Down’s syndrome. “We expect our kids
to do everything. They’re going to do it differently; they’re going
to take longer. They need to fit in the world in their way,” says
Shelly, mother to her two biological and five adopted children.
The triplets, as Shelly calls them, because they are so close in
age, are Evelyn, Hudson, and Owen. Evelyn is an adorable blonde with
sparkling eyes, has been diagnosed with severe autism. She came to
the Burmans uncommunicative and unresponsive to stimuli. Hudson has
a contagious grin and laughing gray eyes; he is deaf, and walks with
the assistance of a child-size walker. Owen is a charmer, and he
loves to sing Row, Row, Row Your Boat; he has a severe digestive
condition that requires tube feeding through his “G-button”, and a
sensory processing disorder that often causes him to feel over
stimulated by his surroundings.
Reagan is a graceful, expressive young girl with a sunny smile, who
loves to play games on mom’s phone, and zoom around the room in her
wheelchair; she has spina bifida, and wears braces on her feet. She
recently received very first pair of tennis shoes – pink sneakers
with sparkles and stars.
Carrington, the youngest of the children, has dark brown curls and
cherubic rosy cheeks. She spent five weeks in the hospital upon her
arrival home for treatment for severe malnutrition and acetone
poisoning, the results of her tragic experience in the foreign
orphanage.
With the services offered through Helping Restore Ability, the
Burman family receives assistance from their two attendants, Dana
and Caitlyn. Dana has been with the family since 2010, helping care
for all of the children throughout the day; Caitlyn, a recent
addition, is teaching the whole family sign language so that
everyone can communicate together. The attendants feed, change, and
assist the children with all aspects of their day, but that’s not
the end of it. They sing songs, play games, and interact with them,
growing their minds and guiding them to a healthy future. According
to Shelly, Helping Restore Ability “has helped our kids to realize
that nothing is impossible. Our kids are learning that ‘I’m
possible’.”
When Shelly speaks about her children, you hear her love and
compassion, but also her determination to help them grow into
capable adults. She and Brian want the focus to be on their
children, and their potential as people. “Our children are going to
be independent about their life,” and Helping Restore Ability is
going to be there for them, to help support every big and small step
of their journey.
